What’s Behind That Pain?

Oftentimes, we run into people who have been living with pain for an extended amount of time or, we ourselves, might be this person.  Chronic pain is very complex as it involves many facets of our whole body mentally, emotionally and physically.  You might understand the physical correlation with chronic pain, but you may be wondering how does a “bum knee” or “bad back” have anything to do with the mind or someone’iStock_000003952112XSmalls emotions.  Let’s look deeper into this idea by looking at some common things you might hear people say… “When I tried to do _____, my back went out”. When I found out about _____, it hit me in the gut”.  ”My knee gave out when I _____”.  ”My heart stopped when  _____ happened”.  These are just a few examples of the many ways physical ailments really are linked to mental and emotional components or stressors.

I have worked with hundreds of people over the years, who have gone from doctor to doctor, taken countless medications for pain and inflammation, undergone injections, surgical procedures and more, only to discover that they still suffer from pain.  Why is that?  If the problem was purely mechanical, the surgery would have corrected the problem, right?  Wrong, because nothing is purely mechanical inside this incredible thing we call the human body.  Our bodies are an intricate web of anatomical and physiological forces working together under the direction of a brain that communicates to and from every cell in our bodies.  This communication is profoundly altered and affected by the types of things we eat, drink, breathe, do, feel and think about.

As we go back to the common sayings noted above, let’s fill in the blank with, “My back went out when I bent over to pick up the dirty clothes on the floor”.  Was it the clothing that was too heavy?  Or, maybe was it that we had recently had an argument with our spouse and had not forgiven them; had been feeling unappreciated or possibly unfulfilled at work lately; or had been stressing about having more bills than income or had not been eating healthy and exercising thus finding our self out of optimum health? In this one example, we see that an injury can be far more complex merely because our bodies are such an amazing combonation of mental, physical and emotional systems.

Back pain affects 80% of people as some point in their lives.  Thinking about the example above, does it now make sense how much of this may not be purely anatomical or mechanical?  We cannot see our own backs without a mirror and therefore, the back is the perfect place where we can hide many unresolved issues and not address them for months or sometimes years.  Things can be locked out of sight there deep within our tissues.  These are the same tissues that cross into the pelvis where our lower body attaches affecting how we walk; that provide support to our internal organs where vital functions such as digestion, cleansing, breathing, child birth and blood flow occur; and that also travel up the spine to support the head and neck thus creating a level platform for our vision and balance.  This list could go on and on, but I think you see the point.

So what can we do to decrease the grip of chronic pain on our bodies?

1.  Proper strengthening and stretching exercises to build up the physical aspect of this intricate equation.

2.  Diaphragmatic breathing and relaxation techniques to increase oxygen intake to support healing and decrease the body’s stress response.

3.  Prayer and meditation to let go of past hurts and come to a place of forgiveness, whether that’s for yourself or someone else.

4.  Mental imagery techniques and affirmations to promote inner peace, strength and total wellness.

5. Eat organic foods closest to their natural state as possible, avoiding processed foods loaded with chemicals and preservatives.

When you stop and think about it, physical pain is really the only type of pain completely accepted by our society. Millions of dollars are spent daily on advertisements to remind us of our pain. Mental and emotional pain are frequently considered weaknesses and not included in this equation. But the reality is, people often wrap their mental and emotional pain inside their physical pain.  This becomes a vicious, out of control cycle when we mix medications and all those side-effects in without looking at the body as a whole and treating it as a priceless creation.

Next time you or someone you know is dealing with chronic pain, look deep inside, ask the tough questions and uncover what it’s really saying about the mind, body and spirit.

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Traci Vincent

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Book Review – Life without Limits by Nick Vujicic

001After listening to Nick’s interview with JB Glossinger on “Profiles in Success” on Morning Coach, I couldn’t wait to purchase this amazing book.   Nick is an internationally renowned motivational speaker travelling the world sharing his wisdom, inspiring the world to overcome adversity with faith, and spreading the word about the power of purpose.  What is truly remarkable is his life journey.  You see, Nick was born without arms or legs and this book illustrates his journey with his disability finding his independence and following God’s path with humility, love, hope and always with laughter.   Let me preface this review with Nick’s motto that he lives by “Another Day, another opportunity”.

The book captivates you right from the start.  Throughout the book in each chapter there are many life lessons such as: Finding a path, Dare to Dream, Holding on to Hope, Attitude is Altitude, the Lessons of Losing and in Chapter eight – Changing the World which resonated with me the most.  This chapter is a depiction of one of his speaking tours, but this time his 2008 trip to India.  His words give such a visual impact of how he must have felt walking through the red-light district known as “Streets of Cages” in Mumbai.  He witnessed firsthand the suffering in the brothels and slums of this city and he also saw the miracles that the dedicated missionaries are performing with the sex slaves and their children on the street of Mumbai.  He states: “As horrendous as life is for these girls and women, they often are afraid to make a change. Without faith, they lose hope, and then they lose their humanity. To make a change, you must be able to envision what lies on the other side. You have to have hope and faith in God and in your ability to find something better.”   This chapter ends with powerful, thought provoking and beautiful stories of women who found their courage despite their adversity to make a change and find their path to “God’s love and the strength of the human spirit”.

To conclude, I humbly ask you to take the time to read this book.  I would like to close with Nick’s words as I could not say it any better: “When you believe in abundance, you believe there are enough of God’s blessings – enough fulfillment, enough opportunity, enough happiness and enough love – out there for everyone. I encourage you to take that point of view because it opens you up to other people. With an abundance mentality, you believe there are rewards enough for everyone, so competition is more about striving to do your best and encouraging others to the same.”  Amen Nick Amen and God bless. Thank you for this gift and continue to be a force to reckon with in the world.

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Anticipation – The Holidays

Do you remember when you were a child and it seemed like time stood still?  Summers consisted of never-ending days of outside play including bike riding, swing sets, SPUD, Barbies, kickball, making mud pies, Kool-Aid stands, running through the sprinklers, croquette, Jarts, organizing carnivals to make some money for candy or the movies, catching butterflies and lightening bugs and endless hours playing Monopoly and Clue while drinking lemonade.  We enjoyed every minute of our days.

When it came time for the holidays, time really seemed to slow down to a snail’s pace as we anxiously awaited a holiday like Halloween or, especially, Christmas in anticipation of how much fun was around the corner.  The long wait, however, gave us time to enjoy and participate in associated traditions such as going to visit Santa Claus, driving around to look at our neighbors Christmas lights and helping mom bake cookies.

Over the years, I have found that my perspective of time has changed dramatically.  I have gone from feeling I have all the time in the world to trying to figure out how to steal more of it.  My eager anticipation and dream-like state of contemplating the upcoming holidays has turned into a zillion to-do lists and the panic that I will not get it all done.  Unfortunately, as I got older, I allowed my to-do lists to suck the awe and wonder of the magic of the season right out of me.

PB273691I decided that this year I could make a conscious decision to have both, the wonder and awe of the season and the accomplishment of being organized and prepared.  I began with Thanksgiving.  I hosted dinner for about 25 people.  As I was cooking and cleaning, I concentrated on the moment and allowed myself to feel the joy in the required tasks of chopping, stirring, and assembling.  I savored the aromas seeping out of the warm oven and encompassing the kitchen in a cloud of euphoria for my senses.  I delighted in and permitted myself to take 5 and get lost in flickering flames dancing inside the fireplace.  I even turned cleaning into an enjoyable experience of singing and dancing to some of my favorite music, allowing it to permeate my heart and soul.  (Now I will admit that an hour or two before the guests were to arrive, I had a minor setback with a surge of frustration, but I was able to notice it for what it was and let it move on by.  At least I’m trying, right???)

As my family began to trickle in, I truly was overwhelmed with the love I had for each and every one of them.  I felt, and feel, very fortunate to have them in my life and made sure I expressed my heart-felt gratitude for them sharing the day with me.  Had I not slowed down to enjoy all the moments leading up to the arrival of the day, I feel I would have probably been in check-list mode and don’t think it would have had such a profound effect on me.  For that I am grateful and am glad I resorted back to “acting like a kid” with the all-the-time-in-the world wonder of anticipation for the holiday at hand.

Off to deck the halls with boughs of holly, tra-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la.

Big Hugs,

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Leslie Brice is a certified Life Coach and founder of Pathway to Passion and Purpose.  She specializes in working with women who are going through a life transition by supporting and empowering them to move in a positive, forward direction through realization of their passions, purpose and infinite potential.  She is also working with JB Glossinger and morningcoach.com to keep people improving 1% a day.

Pathway to Passion and Purpose ; leslie@pathwaytopassionandpurpose.com

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Focus People Focus!

character and magnifying glassHave you ever had one of those days or maybe several where you are so busy spinning like a hamster on a wheel, round and round accomplishing absolutely nothing? Or do you crave that sense of urgency and feel ecstatic once the calamity is over? In today’s society there are so many people who are adrenaline “junkies”.  They feed off this harried energy because they feel validated with an outcome of instant results. This standard of crisis management has become the norm and an expectation for others to follow.

There is something inherently missing or a need not being met in those in this state of exigency. I understood this all too well. Working like a mad hatter I was one of those needing validation and wanting to be appreciated in the workplace. Overtime, on my journey of personal evolution I conquered this need and found courage and regained my self-confidence. I put things into perspective and found clarity and peace of mind.

Hurriedness equals fear and fear can lead to failure. When you find yourself scurrying, one rule of thumb – Stop and smell the roses! Take a time out. Go for a cup of coffee or take a little walk away from your desk and find a place to sit still, relax and breathe.  In that moment you will find clarity.  One of the best tools I use to stay focused so I can find clarity is the Sacred Six. From the Intelligent Life Design course with JB Glossinger, Founder of Morning Coach teaches: “The Sacred Six is an organization system. It is a prioritized list, either daily to-do list, or a project to-do list. It is an esoteric to-do system, with the top 6 things you need to accomplish during the day, or your top six projects. You work through your list every day, for top focus management.” JB has researched that over the years that the mind can only handle about six things going on at once and if you take on more than six then your mind tends to get anxious and unfocused.  So every morning I log into the website morningcoach.com. It is there you will find these great tools such as: Goals, mission, dream board, journal and of course the Sacred Six. I love this tool. I list the absolute six important things I want to complete in my day. I never add to it until one of the tasks that I listed is complete. I have learned to stay focused, stay positive and always persistent to achieve the goals that I set out to do. With calmness and clarity it allows me to open up to receive and manifest my dreams of prosperity.

 

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Living Proof – the Difference a Year Makes

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This thanksgiving I have an irritating bug.  I sound like Minnie Mouse and bark like a seal.  This virus is a minor inconvenience. For last year, I had destroyed my right shoulder.  Despite the continual pain and muscle spasm, I continued, to my own detriment, to push on. I ignored every warning my body offered.  I worked, took call, cleaned house, ate poorly, and took care of everyone, but me.  My PCP referred me to a surgeon. I took pain pills and struggled to do what I “had to do.” It never once occurred to me to simply take time off to rest. Despite MRI results and scheduled surgery, I continued to drag on.

Surgery began forced time off. As the initial pain subsided,  I had ample time to pray, listen, and examine my life. I had so many things to be grateful for. I had a very successful career, a great marriage, amazing children, awesome grandchildren, and good friends. The recover was painfully SLOW.  Muscle spasms did not release. Physical therapy inched along. I was often quite annoyed with myself. I had always been able to figure out a way to do almost anything. But I was at a complete impasse.  I realized I just might not get better. I went into a period of mourning; I was not ready to retire early. Everyone was filled with optimistic ideas of all the lovely things I could do with my time. But, I couldn’t hear them.   I didn’t want to hurt their feelings.  I kept my opinions to myself.  I quit all outside activity and became more committed to healing.

Prayer, reading, physical therapy, acupuncture, Rolfing, Orthobionomy, and doctor visits filled my days.  But, the blessing is:  I slowly learned to be as patient, gentle, and kind to myself as I am with others.   I focused on the  1% improvement I learned from my friend and mentor JB Glossinger. 1% improvement a day;  I could do this.  I improved but muscle spasms continued to wrack my body. Sleep evaded me.

The surgeon reluctantly released me to return to work, with permanent restrictions.  I was trapped in a maze of pain and sleeplessness trying desperately to live my life.  One sleepless night, listening to Wellness Podcasts,  I realized there were no new Rose Cole Podcasts.  I searched and found her website.  Rose had a new webinar series. In silent desperation, I listened.  As she spoke a tiny spark of possibility was ignited. Rose was starting a thirteen-week intensive program.  I talked with Rose on the phone. She said: “Lori, if you don’t want to work with me, you have to work with someone! Are you willing to completely change your diet:  no gluten, dairy, sugar, soy, or caffeine she asked?”  I said yes.

The program was expensive, the most money I have every spent on myself. My husband, the accountant, said sure do it, anything that might help you get better.  Changing my diet was not all that difficult, I was desperate.  A triple board certified nurse practitioner learns nutrition, right? Well not enough, I can tell you.

Our program included an intensive weekend with Rose. During the retreat, surrounded by the most amazing women, I discovered the root cause of my pain and muscle spasms. My entire life I had carried the pain of all my patients, family, and friends.  I learned to tenderly release their pain of so many little ones.   I learned I am not a sponge, but a channel.  I knew the source of healing and connected, I simply let it flow. The people are all here in my heart where I treasure them. Their pain rests in the hands of God.

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My body, heals from the inside out. I am so thankful!!! And I reach out to you.

Lori Elgin is a nurse practitioner and life coach. She and her husband live in the beautiful Pacific NW with Zev, the wonder Scottie and Charlie the Persian cat. They have five children and nine grandchildren.

http://LoriElgin.com – like herself,  a work in progress.  You might want to follow her:

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