Energy on the Way Up

iStock_000014784342XSmallSo often I have seen men and women, particularly those climbing the career ladder, slowly start to let work take precedence over their health.  I’ll be honest here, I was one of those women who fell into this trap previously.  It starts out innocently as a workout missed here and there.  Then you find yourself eating fast-food or packaged food because you are short on time or tired from a long work day.  Weight gain creeps in.  You start losing valuable hours of sleep because you are working on a project or presentation for work. Little by little, you find yourself relying more on caffeine or energy drinks to give you that boost.  Sugar and sweets often becomes another source for that “pick me up” effect.  Over time, it takes more and more caffeine and/or sugar to have the same effect that it did early on.

Before long, random aches and pains will often start to set in, typically in the neck, shoulders and back.  Headaches could also begin to increase.  It becomes a steady cycle of dis-ease winding a spiral of symptoms throughout our bodies.  To counteract these symptoms, we may choose medications instead of looking at the big picture so to speak.  I’ve seen patients taking everything from over-the-counter medications all the way to narcotics, legal and illegal, to combat the pain and dis-ease they feel.  The once vital person is now someone with a fraction of the energy and level of health remaining.

So what are some basic things to do to steer clear of this trap that many of us fall into?

  1. Drink more water. May sound strange, but drinking at least 50% of your weight in ounces of water per day will help flush many of the built up toxins out of the body.  This helps restore energy and decrease pain.
  2. Avoid packaged/processed foods. Its tough when you are on a busy schedule, but it is very doable with a bit of advanced planning.  Keep fruit, nuts and veggies at the office or in your car to munch on.  This will keep your blood sugar more stable and prevent the cycle of relying on candy or drive-thru meals from becoming a habit.  Once you get home, you won’t be as famished or inclined to eat a heavy meal at home or in a restaurant. Each time you eat food closest to it’s natural source–the way it appears on earth, the more wholesome nutrients and good energy you are feeding your body.
  3. Get some type of exercise.  Take the stairs, park far away and walk, walk on your lunch break, go to the gym, take a yoga, dance or fitness class.  Whatever it is, just do it.  Not only will it be beneficial for your body physically, it will also be good for you mentally.  Exercise is how we strengthen ourselves to be able to handle those long challenging days mentally and physically.  Don’t use the excuse that “I don’t have time.”  Continuously missing  as little as 30 minutes of exercise each day, may cost you years off your life span in the end.  Make the time. You are worth it. Your family and the world need your energy  as well.  Don’t short-change us.
  4. Sleep more.  So often, we have trouble unwinding at night and watch TV.  This simulates the brain to stay awake versus unwinding it to sleep.  Have you ever noticed yourself thinking about the news and its negativity and drama, instead of peaceful thoughts as you prepare your body for rest? By turning off the TV, you could add another 30-60 minutes of sleep, if not more, to your night.  Our bodies restore, rejuvenate and regain energy when we sleep.

These tips are all things you have probably heard before, but from what I see in the clinic and in the world, we all need to be reminded again and again.  Here in the United States particularly, we are conditioned by advertisers to eat fast, live fast, communicate fast, etc. Our bodies cannot sustain that lifestyle without first having a solid foundation of wellness from within.

Remember, be well, do well, live well.

Traci Vincent

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Do You Have Your Act Together?

iStock_000016220503XSmall[1]Do you dream of success, with the perfect job or want to be the chief cook and bottle washer of your own company? Of course you do, we all have dreams of happiness and financial prosperity.  Conversely, have you seen your perfect job slip away because you haven’t got your act together?  Are you one of those people who wish their success on luck at the local casino or the weekly lottery tickets?  Success is not measured by your luck it comes with hard work, patience and persistence. 

The old adage that “hard work pays off” is absolutely true.  You alone are responsible for your success.  You have to believe in yourself, make plans, prepare, dive in and act! 

Believe in yourself.  Get out of lack consciousness and believe in yourself and your own self-worth.  It starts by taking care of ourselves.  Love yourself wherever you are at in your life.  This shows the universe that you are an abundant person.  It is all intertwined.  In the past, I know this is where I had fallen short and at times I still do because I’m looking after everyone else instead of me.  The buck stops at you and me.  Embrace the beautiful being that you are and make the commitment to improve your health and you will see the abundance unfolding and your dreams realized.

Preparation and planning.  Once you have the love and acceptance of self, it is now time to put the preparation, plans and work in order.  You are on a mission. Like any good solider going out on a mission you need a mission statement.  You must define your values and goals to support this statement.  A personal mission statement has the same principles as a business mission statement; the subtle difference is a personal mission statement is intended to give you clarity to define what is most important in your life.  So I ask you to consider this question: What do you really want in life?  In Stephen Covey’s book First Things First, the author succinctly defines a mission statement to be: “connecting with your own unique purpose and the profound satisfaction that comes from fulfilling it”.   Your personal values are your spirit or core beliefs and these values play a definitive role in your decision making process and in all facets of life.  Examples of values are: love, family, personal growth, integrity, benevolence and creativity.   A goal is a personal plan or strategy that you are aspiring to achieve within a certain timeframe.  Whether you want to lose 10 pounds in the next six months, start a new business or learn a new language in the next year, make sure that they are attainable and aligned with your values and mission statement.

Now you are prepared with defined values and goals and a mission statement in hand you are ready to take action! The choices and decisions you make every day have a profound effect on your life.  Choose wisely, listen to your intuition and follow your heart and you will be successful.

 

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Let’s Meet Up

iStock_000015482452XSmallIn today’s world of texting and online networking, we often spend more time connecting with others electronically rather than in person.  Yes, I realize that many of our contacts live in other states and other countries, but how many live nearby?  When was the last time you arranged to get together for a coffee, lunch or maybe for an hour of exercise?  Connecting in person is and  always will be the most powerful way to connect with others.  In person, you communicate verbally and non-verbally in real time.  You have the opportunity to find out more about the person, their interests, their challenges, and their dreams and goals.  You have the opportunity to connect and see how you can help them, and in turn maybe through that person or their network, you can discover ways to solve your challenges or reach your goals as well.

We were created to be social beings who rely on one another.  We are a community of human beings assisting each other for the greater good of all.  As the old saying goes, “There is no I in team.”

For women, this can be a challenge sometimes if the contact is a man.  Guys, you know what your first thought will be if a girl calls up to meet for coffee or a jog at the local park.  We are all grown ups, so let’s be respectful and professional.  Ladies, just invite another friend along if the situation could be viewed as uncomfortable by you, the contact,  a spouse or significant other. This is about building better relationships for life and for business.  Practice good communication, honesty and truthfulness and you just might discover you can add another person to your team.

Who will you call?

Traci Vincent

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Saint or Sinner

iStock_000014987444XSmallLike me, many of you may have unfortunately grown up with a some sort of religious background that may have left you constantly trying to live up to some illusive state of purity and perfection or as many religions have labeled, sainthood.  Last time I checked, all the saints I know about are dead.  So what are those of us still living to do?  The religious dogma we encountered might have been filled with constant conditioning that we have to “do good” or “be good”.  This may have left many of us feeling guilty, disappointed and repeatedly labeling ourselves as sinners.  We might have taken on the mentality that we are not good enough. This lifelong message may have lead us to take on the persona of someone who fails or doesn’t measure up. Having these thoughts over and over has lead to the belief that we are sinners or failures.  This has lead to actions that solidify this belief. Wow, as a man thinks, so he becomes.   This type of conditioning may have left many people afraid to have a relationship or a connection to God out of fear, guilt or shame.

While reading the Bible recently, I happened to notice that it states several times in the New Testament that we are saints and even calls us royalty.  Me? You? Yes! We are already royalty; we are already saints.  We didn’t have to earn it or be perfect first, the only thing needed is that we have faith in God, believe in Him and trust in Him.  Doesn’t this feel like a total perspective shift?  If we are already saints, then there is no need to hold on and feel guilty or shameful about past failures and mistakes.  There is no need to operate from the perspective of a sinner or someone is isn’t good enough.  There is no need to let the past define our future.

Let’s stop living like sinners who are conditioned to fail again and again and never reach the mark.  Let’s stop trying to hide our guilt and shame by wearing the masks of “doing good” or “being good”.  Let’s approach life from the perspective of authenticity, believing we are already  saints who are faithful and trusting.  Let’s live like saints, who occasionally fail, instead of sinners who occasionally do something good.  We can be transformed by the renewing of our thoughts in this area.  We can let go of the past and look forward to the future.  We can be filled with grace, wisdom, understanding and every spiritual blessing in this moment.

I realize this could be an uncomfortable topic for some, but let me know what you think.  My desire is that each person live a life unclogged of regret, shame or lack of faith and belief.

Traci Vincent

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A Step-Mom’s Perspective!

iStock_000014415501XSmall[1]Yesterday was Mother’s Day and it got me thinking about how Step-Moms in folk and fairy tales have always gotten a raw deal.  In Cinderella, Hansel and Gretel and Snow White they are all portrayed as evil witches.  I was unable to have children and never dreamed I would become a Step-Mom someday.  Nine years ago when I met the man of my dreams with his precocious 6 year old I knew then with all my heart that I would love this man and his son.  Did I become that evil dreaded witch or the mean Step-Mom? Absolutely not! 

Ok, so I ended up marrying my Prince Charming; however the fairy tale wasn’t all roses and had a few bumps along the way.  I also didn’t have a fairy godmother to guide me.  There were days when I experienced the screaming tantrums, manipulations and the battle of the wills.  With a lot of patience and love the challenges subsided and he has grown into a pretty good teenager.

I have learned valuable lessons along this journey and I continue to work on them even now as my 15 year old step-son is moving forward in the world.

I learned not to take anything personally.  In the beginning of this new family dynamic I would be compared to Mom in everything I did and I was over sensitive to the criticism.  I know I am not Mom and never will be however, I take great solace knowing that I have learned to be confident and secure in who I am. In the text, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, the second agreement is – Don’t take anything personally.   Don Miguel eloquently writes: “You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others”.   I choose the high road and follow my heart and practise this agreement daily.  This nursery rhyme became my mantra -“Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”.

It’s out of my control and learned to let things go.  I had to accept that my husband’s ex-wife will always be in the picture because of this child.  I have no control in what happens at his mother’s house and it’s not my business to know.  It was definitely an Aha moment for me.  It’s not a competition and there is no more drama.  Nowadays, I can sit at my step-son’s ball hockey game, chat and laugh with his mother and just share in the sheer joy of the moment.

 Live with gratitude.  I have learned to live with an attitude of gratitude.  This child was brought into my life and is a gift. I love watching him grow and sharing the experience with my husband.  

I know for sure that I must be doing the right thing and I love this young man with a Mother’s heart.  There is a reason why he is in my life and I am constantly learning from him as he is with me.  His words in the Mother’s Day card he gave me yesterday says it all: “Debra, Happy Mother’s Day, Even though you’re not my Mother I still love you like one and I thank you for all that you do and all that you’ve done.”

 

 

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