Like me, there may be some of you who lost a big portion of your financial portfolio that accumulated in the mid-2000’s over the past few years with the economic slump and real estate crisis.   Many families lost their commercial buildings due to business closures, income properties when tenants lost their jobs, not to mention their own homes by being upside down or behind with their mortgages.  These same people who once thought that they would rely on real estate equity to fund college tuition and retirement, now stand late in the game with pennies on the dollar left.  I spoke to someone just last week who mentioned that he was in counseling because of the millions he has lost in recent years and who had two friends commit suicide recently because of their multi-million dollar losses.

Wow, this is serious!  People are taking their own lives because they perceive the situation as so negative and bleak.  Families are left destroyed not only financially, but mentally and emotionally as well by these drastic actions.  This struck home to me as I am in the process of selling an income property for hundreds of thousands less than what I paid for it.  That property was “supposed” to increase in value and become the nest egg for my children’s college fund and my retirement.  Initially, I was very upset when I thought about this unexpected turn of events.  Words like “it’s not right”, ” it’s not fair”, and “how will I get this huge amount of money back?”-all crossed my mind.  I finally decided that those thoughts were only breeding more of the same and I had to reframe my perspective.

Over the course of this year, I have had significant changes occur in my life.  I have been breaking through old thought processes, old habits, and simplifying many areas of my life. I have down sized my living and like the property mentioned above, am unloading things that don’t serve my goals any longer.  Many heart wrenching, tough choices have had to made over the past several months. However, in the process of letting go of so much, I have equally discovered many new things and new opportunities.  Where I once felt like a failure with the loss of my net worth, I have unexpectedly learned that my legacy to my children can be something much more than mere finances for college.

By taking the time to reflect on my deepest inner most values, gifts and talents, and true inner purposes, I am beginning to wipe away years of conditioning to what society and other people have said were my values, talents and purposes. I have found that opportunities are now opening up for me to honor my true purposes and thereby create an even greater life for myself and legacy for my children.  There has been a shift in my priorities and in my perspective toward all the events that have taken place in recent years with the financial crisis.  This ability to change my perception has given me an amazing sense of freedom. Freedom to finally see that events are just that, events. I am free to choose a new perspective and to base my choices and decisions on my deepest values, talents and purposes.  What a sense of peace this freedom has brought.

Enough people have taken their lives and destroyed their families because they defined themselves by what society and family/friends said was important and valuable.  Now is the time to help others discover a new perception of things and start living in their deepest core values, true talents and gifts and inner most purposes.  If you need assistance with this, find a life coach who can work with you as you discover the freedom found aligning these areas.

Traci Vincent

Tags: clarity, financial goals, freedom, overcome fear

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