Subscribe to RSSFrom stumbling on stage to walking out of the bathroom with toilet paper on your shoe, we’ve all had an embarrassing experience at some point in our lives.
While some consider these situations to be negative and demeaning, I actually think it’s an opportunity for us to grow in character and in confidence. I know it’s hard to believe how an embarrassing situation can be positive when everyone in the room is pointing and laughing, but it all begins with adjusting your perspective and learning to differentiate between reality and illusions. I was amazed to learn that, for the majority of us, the fear of public speaking is greater than that of dying! Would we really rather die than speak in front of people? How does that make any sense?
I recently watched an episode of “Inside the Actors’ Studio” where the featured guest interviewer was one of my favorite comedians, Dave Chappelle. During his interview, he described his horrible experience of bombing on stage when his jokes did not receive any laughs. He stated, however, that it was actually the most liberating and empowering experience of his career because he came to realize it wasn’t as bad as he would have thought. This fueled Dave to become the fearless and great comedian that he is today. He added that embarrassing experiences, if approached with a positive perspective, can help us grow and make great stories to tell our grandkids.
As mentioned earlier, one of our greatest fears is public speaking because of the fear of being criticized by others.  The fear of failing and being criticized is actually the cause of falling on our face. If we should fail and become embarrassed, so what? What is the worst thing that can happen, having tomatoes thrown at you? If so, then look at it as a great opportunity to improve your reflexes.
If you are reading this blog post, then more than likely you have a type-A personality, always wanting to do things right and criticizing yourself for any mistakes. However, I’m here to tell you that it’s actually normal to make mistakes, and if you are too hard on yourself for making the mistake, you will lose the lesson. It’s your responsibility to learn and grow from the experience.
Do away with these minuscule worries, especially when it comes to embarrassing criticism from others, as most of the time the worries are just magnified by an idea that is actually non-existent. As Dave Chappelle said, messing up on stage is really not that bad, it’s your perspective towards it that really matters.
I leave you with a quote that really embodies this message. “You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself.” (Ethel Barrymore)
I would like to hear your most embarrassing moment. How did you deal with it?
physical posture. I remember my parents used to always correct me by stating, “Sit up straight”, “Stop slouching”, etc. Personal posture is similar to physical posture but also involves the mind.  It’s a matter of valuing your true self for what it’s worth without being a narcissist, of course. Here are three simple tips to improve your personal posture and increase your personal self worth.
within a person’s thought and skill set, a master piece that illustrates the boundless capacity of human potential. When you see these anomalies occur, they are most often credited to the person. It’s a superficial acknowledgement to those that have accomplished what is considered to be a masterpiece. However, what if instead of taking full credit for these accomplishments, it was instead attributed to an external force? I believe that this approach of humility and passiveness, when it comes to genius, can serve to be liberating to the person displaying the genius. There have been plenty of times when great minds collapse under pressure, leaving people wondering what happened as they stare at the rubble. The fact is, genius, as we know, is based on ego, which can cause the brilliant genius to become a curse instead of a blessing. For example, an author publishes a book which becomes a NY Times bestseller and is considered to be one of the best pieces of literature of our time. Towards the end of the 15 minutes of fame derived from this literature, the ego begins to wonder how to top off the last masterpiece that was created from this genius. In a frantic effort to outdo its last endeavor, the ego creates an inner conflict which causes pressure on the person’s persona. This perspective also leaves people to become prone to narcissism if their endeavor was a success or depression if it was a disaster.
whine or you just grunt. Yes, there are times when we can all be our own worst enemy.
